More and more each day we discover ourselves behaving and liking the opposites of things. If I like the door closed, she likes it open; if a room is too hot for her, it’s too cold for me; if the sink is already full of dirty dishes, well, I wash them.
I love how Jaycelle and I meet in the middle.
Our relationship survives pleasantly because of our willingness to compromise.
At first I really didn’t understand my father every time he told me that relationships are “give and take”. This was his advice whenever I would come up to him with a bruised heart.
And so I learned – love is when you come out of a wreckage scathed but alive and stronger – ready to go through it all again with that person.
Only nine days to go and it will be our first anniversary since we got married. It’s been busy since we started preparing for the big day and little by little we slowed down to unwind and enjoy this new chapter of our lives together. We take it easy building our dreams, discerning which roads to choose and which way to turn to. It’s us in this journey.
I love how Jaycelle balances my sourness with her sweetness.
I can be very rigid at times – with all the things that’s happening in my life in the pursuit of dreams and career, it undoubtedly turned me unimaginative. But there is Jaycelle with her uplifting attitude to make me look into the brighter side of things; there she is to plan for short trips and all the fabulous adventures only a girl could think of. I roll my eyes then I enjoy the ride.
Early in our engagement when we were trying to veer from the inevitable months of preparation, I’ve chanced upon a song that’s been in my playlist for so long – ‘Good Morning Sunshine’ by Jah Cure. Right there and then, our situation shed a new light to the song – I imagined it to be playing on our wedding – specifically right after the ceremony when we’re about to be welcomed by our guests.
It inspired me to compile all the songs that I dedicate to Jaycelle. From there, the compilation grew bigger that I was able to categorize it into the different stages of our big day.
Over the years we’ve shared so many songs together, mostly from me whenever I would dedicate to her songs that I would like given with the right lyrics. She would instantly like those songs. Some were soundtracks of movies we both liked upon watching.
Talk About Music
That’s how our friendship started – during the first few weeks at the office where we met, we have gotten each other’s Yahoo! Messenger IDs and I would share MP3s with her – songs that I found melodic and sometimes mushy- songs that only sentimental types would like. Those songs didn’t have consistent genres collectively – from Tracy Chapman’s The Promise to Athlete’s Half Light – I would just transfer everything and she seemed to be thrilled each time.
On our coming 1st wedding anniversary, just in time I have encountered the perfect song to inspire me once again to build a compilation:
And darling I will be loving you ’til we’re 70
And baby my heart could still fall as hard at 23
And I’m thinking ’bout how people fall in love in mysterious ways
Maybe just the touch of a hand
Oh me I fall in love with you every single day
And I just wanna tell you I am
~ Thinking Out Loud by Ed Sheeran